Problems do not define us

Problems do not define

Frustrated describes my husband when he interacts with government agencies. He doesn’t like the fact that our government hasn’t learned to use the technology of the day to make processes easier. One of the down side of moving across states lines is that we needed need driver’s licenses and plates for our vehicles. We didn’t want to do this at all, and waited towards the end of allotted time to get it done.

My husband wanted everything to go smoothly. He talked to people about where to go, when different building would be open, how much things would cost, and what documentation we would need. I really appreciated his effort to avoid problems.

So on the day that we planned to accomplish this task, my husband went to the bank to collect the rest of the paperwork that we would need. He asked me to have myself and our daughter ready to go when he returned.

I didn’t even get out of the house before we ran into a problem. I had misplaced my driver’s license that need to replace. It was required to obtain a new one. I looked. When my husband returned from the bank, he looked. We couldn’t find it. We finally decided to go to get my husband documentation updated and see if we could get mine done without my old license.courthouse

On our way, I was pretty disappointed in myself. I knew that avoiding problems was one of my husband’s goals, and I (of all people) was the issue. I felt like a failure. As we were riding in the car, my voice was quit, because the inner dialog was loud. My husband asked me what I was thinking. We have had numerous conversations about my need to control my negative inner dialog, so I knew that I didn’t want to tell him the truth. I just sat there.

In that moment, my husband reminded me that my inner dialog could be controlled. I didn’t have to let it control my attitude or the way I treated my husband. I get to determine my focus.

Philippians 4:4-8 says (NET):

Rejoice in the Lord always. Again I say, rejoice! Let everyone see your gentleness. The Lord is near! Do not be anxious about anything. Instead, in every situation, through prayer and petition with thanksgiving, tell your requests to God. And the peace of God that surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is worthy of respect, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if something is excellent or praiseworthy, think about these things.

I didn’t have to allow a small misplaced license to tell me that I was a failure.

God has it all under His control. When I slowed down enough to focus on what really matters, we were able to find my diverse license.

Do you let small hang-up determine your value?  How do to take control of your self-worth?  On this Valentine’s Day, I am extremely grateful for a husband that helps me control my inner dialog.  What do you have to control your inner dialog?

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