We have tried. Others have tried. Amy has joked that even the psychiatrists have given up. That’s mostly part of her defense, which employs comedy as a smokescreen. But it’s impossible. We can’t be fixed. We are going to be broken.
I (Amy) tried to fix myself and become what I was expected to be: a young lady, a good Christian, a perfect student, now a respectable professional, good-humored and witty, and crowd-pleasing. But I can’t fix myself. I can’t be perfect.
I (Kendra) tried to a wonderful wife, responsible mother, and generous volunteer. But I keep on sinning and wasting time. I would love to know that I was perfect, and that all my problems were caused by someone’s else. But they weren’t. I can’t be perfect.
Friends, with the best intentions, have also tried to fix us when they notice we’re broken. They offer their best advice. They encourage us with their hugs. They talk with us, trying to come up with a plan of action, because they care and want to help. But they can’t fix us. We’re just broken.
We are okay with being broken. Christ knows we are broken and weak.
Each time, He said, “My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.” So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me. That’s why I take pleasure in my weaknesses, and in the insults, hardships, persecutions, and troubles that I suffer for Christ. For when I am weak, then I am strong. 2 Corinthians 12:9-10.
But on the days when you notice our brokenness more than usual, will you still be our friend?
Anyone can be friends with the person who makes you laugh. Anyone can be friends with the person who is a deep-thinking conversationalist. Anyone can be friends with the life of the party. But there will be times when our brokenness is more outstanding than our good qualities. We will need to know that you still accept us for who we are: brokenness, struggles, and all.
We know that we are a work in progress. That someday, God will finished His masterpiece (a.k.a. us). And we are waiting for that day.
Ephesians 2:10 For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.
Lamentation 3:25 The Lord is good to those who wait for him, to the soul who seeks him.
Will you offer grace to others work in progress?