I was reminded about an interesting fact about strength while watching this year’s Super Bowl. I didn’t actually learn anything from the game itself, although I did watch most of the game. I didn’t learn much from the advertisements. Although I have to be honest, after watching the advertisement I did want more food. The halftime show didn’t revolutionize my world. In fact, I struggled to understand a good portion of what was sung. Actually, a youth at the party reminded me of an important truth.
But you might need more information. I watch the Super Bowl with a group of people that were largely youth. To this day, I don’t really know that happened. I believe that some girl said something that another girl did not like. Rather than dealing with the offence directly. The youths started talking and taking sides. Before long, there are many sides and lots of hurt feelings. An argument that should have only been between a few youth, now evolved people that were not even at the party. Thanks to the phone and social media.
After the game, I tried to have conversation with one particle youth. This youth was very vocal. In her opinion, she was standing up for a friend. The adults who were trying to find peace were willing to let her friend be hurt in the name of peace. I attempted to show her that the adults were actually trying help the entire group, but she wasn’t listening. She wanted to prove that she was right in her actions. I finally quit trying to change her opinion and just listened. I wasn’t going to change her mind.
I could relate. When I get defensive, I stop listening. It is generally not rooted in pride. It is rooted in self-preservation. I think so lowly of myself, that I need to be right sometimes. If I am confident that I right, I want to you acknowledge it. The thing I need to remind myself is others need their voice to be heard as well. It is not all about me.
I think this is way James wrote James 1:19-20: “Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God” (emphasis added).
James understood the importance of being heard. People like to be heard. It makes them feel valued. If you want to encourage someone and improve a situation, make sure that you are listening.
And I want to encourage my friend, Amy Truman. She has learned that life is difficult. Sometimes, we want to quit. Although there are times to quit, but we should never quit following God. I have invited her to help me encourage you to keep being strong with Christ. So she will join me in writing this blog.
We would also like to hear from you. Do you ever get discouraged because life isn’t what you expected? What helps you? What doesn’t? We would love to hear your stories.
We are ready to learn from your perspective. If you have friends that we could learn from, please share. If you have friends who we could encourage, please share.